I post a lot of happy statuses and pictures on Facebook. I mean, who wants to read depressing stuff in their news feed? Plus, I like celebrating the fun with others. But on the flip side of that – I like to hear encouragement on the not-so-good days too.
I feel like no one really talks about how hard motherhood is in the early days. Everyone wants to focus on the cute baby instead of the roller coaster of emotions that a woman feels after popping out a kid. Sure, babies are a blessing; but along with the joy are depression and resentment.
I believe many more mothers experience the negative emotions than just those who are willing to talk about it. Because of the guilt. How can we feel so negative at such a joyous time?
Savvy healthcare professionals will tell you it’s normal to have crazy emotions in the ten days following the birth as your hormones regulate. After that they will tell you about the risks and treatment of postpartum depression.
I am here to tell you that I probably had postpartum depression. I wept for no reason; was angry that I had to wake up in the middle of the night so many times; and was anxious about caring for two kids. Thankfully, it was brief and easily treated with supplements. I still have down days, and that’s normal too.
Parenting is the hardest job of all. We are responsible for these little humans who need us at every possible second of the day. We don’t always get a break. And when we do we
blog, do dishes, nap, clean the toilet – whatever needs to be done. Though I’m learning that I need to take a few minutes for a hobby rather than always rushing to get the laundry done. And I’m constantly reminding myself of the positive.
That’s how I handle tough situations – I let myself feel the hard parts for a little while, then focus on the good stuff. I try not to bury the negative emotions because then it just builds up and gets worse. Let it out and be free.