Mommy guilt is a killer. I try not to beat myself up – especially now as I’m transitioning in to being a mom of two. Parenting is hard work. I know I make mistakes. But I do the best that I can. Here are some areas I would like to improve upon:
- Take them outside more often. I hated going outside when I was a kid. My mom had to kick my brother and me outside. I’m not really an outdoorsy kind of person. I always have an excuse. Too tired. Too hot. Too many bugs. Just don’t want to. But I feel really bad that Zoe is stuck inside with me. She loves to go outside – even if it’s to run up and down the driveway. Because that’s pretty much all it is. We have a very tiny patch of grass out front; the rest is pavement. And we don’t have a nearby park. And Zubair takes the car to work. See – I’m really good at excuses. I feel really good when we go to the park on the weekends. My goal is to take her out more often – later in the day when it’s cooler.
- Make proper lunches again. Before Greyson came along, Zoe and I always had lunch together. She would have whatever I was having. But now, our schedule is all off. I’m distracted with a newborn; and before I know it – it’s nap time. And oh, wait, Zoe hasn’t eaten lunch. The other day she was in bed waiting for me while I quickly made a pb and j sandwich to shove down my throat. Thankfully, she ate some of that. Lately, it seems like I eat when they are sleeping. It’s the one chance I get to make something and actually eat it without being interrupted. I worry if Zoe is starving, and then I come back to reality. She’s more than fine; eats enough while running around – just like every other toddler her age. But now that I’m getting my groove back, it should be easier to have lunch before nap time again.
- Turn off the TV. Not gonna lie. Sometimes, I am a couch potato. I wouldn’t call myself lazy because I get a lot done during the day. You know, taking care of the kids, housework, and all that jazz. But I like to keep the TV on for background noise. I don’t like it too quiet. It seems like all of a sudden Zoe is paying way too much attention to it. And for this, I feel guilty. I always thought that I wouldn’t let her watch TV until she was two. But that didn’t happen – because I have it on quite a bit. Sometimes I am thankful she’s distracted by the TV when I am feeding her brother rather than getting into something she shouldn’t. We read books, play tea party all in the same room with the TV. I will turn it off more often, and enjoy the quiet moments while I can.
What gives you Mommy guilt and how can you fix it?