October 8, 2012
by jennifer

Forgiving myself for being messy…

Cleaning has never really been a priority for me.  My mother will attest to that one.  I remember arguing with my parents as a teenager.  I told them I shouldn’t have to clean my room because it’s my room, and since I have to live in it – it could be messy if I wanted it to be.  Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t.

In college, all my roommates yelled at me for not doing the dishes right away.  My side of the room was usually okay though.  It seems like every week or so I would have to take time to put all my clothes away from the week before. Continue Reading →

October 5, 2012
by jennifer
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Frugal Friday #5 – Passing down frugal values to my daughter

What does it mean to be frugal?

It means that I think twice about making impulse buys.  It means a simpler life, and cutting back on the excess fashion accessories I don’t need.  It means I find other ways to spend my time rather than scouring the internet for deals.  It means making smart financial decisions.

Why is it important?

I have certain financial values and goals.  And when my actions don’t line up with them, I feel uncomfortable. Continue Reading →

October 4, 2012
by jennifer
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The secret to great communication with your spouse…

The secret is…you actually have to talk to each other!  I know, I know.  It’s shocking.

While dating, Zubair and I used to break up a lot.  One day, everything would be fine; but, then one of us would do something to annoy the other.  Instead of talking about it and working it out, we would just break up.

The first summer we dated

I am so guilty of this in my dating life.  I would let the smallest things bother me.  I didn’t want to hurt his feelings, so I buried it.  The frustration just built up and became something much bigger than it really had to be. Continue Reading →

September 28, 2012
by jennifer

Frugal Friday #4 – Making confessions to my husband

When I feel guilty about a purchase, I make a confession to my husband.

Or I ask him if it’s okay to buy something.  If he says yes, then I don’t need to feel guilty about it.  It’s almost like he’s my priest or something.  He gives me blessings and pardons.  And then my guilt is gone.

I used to do the same thing with my mother.  I would tell her about my latest purchases, and depending on her reaction – I would know how to feel about it.

It’s a totally cheap way of not taking responsibility.

And yet, shouldn’t couples discuss purchases?  It’s not like we both don’t check the bank account online.  However, it’s not like I ask permission or forgiveness when it comes to toilet paper or groceries.  I KNOW those things are okay.  It’s just when they are things I know I don’t need, or I’m on the fence about it. Continue Reading →

September 27, 2012
by jennifer

Spicy Corn Chowder, my last meal before motherhood (recipe included)

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I remember it like it was yesterday.  My water broke the night before, so I was getting ready to go to the hospital.  You know, packing my bag and eating lunch.  All the important things. 

I sat down to eat some Spicy Corn Chowder that I made a couple days before – one, because I didn’t want it to go to waste; and two – I knew they wouldn’t let me eat at the hospital, so I wanted to have my last meal.

Corn Chowder is one of my favorite soups.  I even used to make a vegan version.  Also, since it’s, basically, the only soup my husband will eat, I make it quite a bit in the fall. Continue Reading →

September 26, 2012
by jennifer

How I fell into Attachment Parenting…and what it means to me

Maybe you’ve heard about Attachment Parenting (AP).  Maybe you haven’t.  It’s been in the news a little bit recently.  Basically, it’s a style of parenting that includes practices such as breastfeeding, baby-wearing, co-sleeping, etc.  It acknowledges the special bond that mother has with her baby.  And promotes the needs of the infant above most things.

I never really researched parenting styles or anything like that.  I always knew I wanted to breastfeed.  Then, I heard about baby-wearing, which also just seemed to make sense to me.  And I already shared how the whole co-sleeping thing worked out.

I am, by no means, an expert in AP.  In fact, it wasn’t like I woke up one day and decided to follow Attachment Parenting.  I actually just stumbled across it by accident, and realized I was already practicing the principles.  Breastfeeding, baby-wearing, and co-sleeping are all things that I fell into intuitively.  They just feel natural to me. Continue Reading →

September 24, 2012
by jennifer
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We went on a real date, and I didn’t check my phone every two seconds…

I can count on one hand the number of times Zoe has been without my husband and me.

When she was two months, I left her with my mother-in-law for an hour because I had to take the cat to the vet to get ready for our cross-country flight.  Zubair was already in California.  She was very young so she probably didn’t even know I was gone.  It was the longest hour of my life.

The first date didn’t go so well

The first time we tried to go on a date we were in NY at my parents’ house.  We left Zoe, eight months, with my mom, dad, and my brother.  They couldn’t get to her stop crying so they called us after about 30 minutes. We got our dinner to go and rushed to their house.  Since she’s not as familiar with them, she just wanted her mommy and daddy. Continue Reading →

September 21, 2012
by jennifer

Frugal Friday #3 – Why I think I deserve nice things…

I work hard, so I deserve nice things, right?

Last week, I wrote about all my temptations and excuses for all my purchases over the years.  But, probably, my number one excuse is thinking I deserve nice things.  Now, I don’t go around telling people that.  It’s in the back of mind somewhere with all the other lies that I try to tell myself from time to time.

Since I have a good job, and make a decent living, I treat myself to items that I think I need.  However, the reality is – I don’t really need much of anything.  I have enough clothes to last me quite a while.  I wear mostly lounge clothes during the week, anyway.  I think I might ask for a couple pairs of lounge pants for Christmas (if I can last that long) though because I’m sick of the bubble gum pink ones… Continue Reading →

September 19, 2012
by jennifer

I never knew tossing a bed could be so freeing…

Do you ever get in the mood to get rid of stuff?  I do, quite frequently.  But I don’t always take action because I don’t know what to throw away.  I’m either too attached to it or feel bad about not selling it.

I’ve only sold a few things on Ebay before.  I didn’t like the stress of running to the post office at a moment’s notice so I wouldn’t get a bad review.  I’ve also tried Craigslist without success.

Moving means reducing

We lost two rooms when we moved to LA.  Which means we had to do some downsizing.  Even though I reduced, we still have too much stuff! Continue Reading →

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